Couples Counseling

The ONE…

You’ve found the one. You’ve waited for a very long time, sometimes doubting whether you’d ever have a relationship at all, but now, it’s here. You know it’s right.

And you can’t wait to start building your future together, but –

There’s so much baggage. You’ve been through so much, and so has your partner. How will you ever overcome it all?

Some couples find themselves in trouble even before the relationship begins. We all have histories from experiences that shape us into who we are today. They can be hard enough when we are on our own, but – add a significant other into the picture?

Now, there’s a potential recipe for disaster.

Do you remember?

When you couldn’t wait to be together? When seconds passed like weeks while you struggled through the workday to get back to each other?

When romance sizzled all the time, buoying you over the exhaustion of talking on the phone for hours or the romantic evenings that turned into mornings?

And it’s still good, but there are days – you have your issues. And it’s hard to find time for each other when you’re constantly working and taking care of the home and family and all that go with them. Tired, frustrated, and frazzled, you don’t always handle things in the best possible way.

Or you’re shouldering unusual responsibilities.

Perhaps you have a special needs child who requires additional attention, or, like many couples, you’re struggling to care for aging parents.

You’re doing all you can, but the added responsibility can be overwhelming.

Families dealing with these situations face especially challenging circumstances. Stretched too thin, they can exert a tremendous strain on even the strongest marriages.

Sometimes, you’re struggling under so much that you wonder whether you’ll make it.

But there’s good news. You don’t have to navigate these waters alone.

Couples counseling isn’t just for troubled relationships. At some point, every couple could use an extra coach in their corner.

Let me help.

No matter where you are in your life as a couple, whether you’re just beginning or are seasoned veterans, you can benefit from effective skills and solutions designed to help you not only survive but thrive – together.

What can I offer?

When meeting with couples, we discover most issues from a lack of good communication skills. When we hear or see something that we don’t like or disagree with, we react, not respond.

What’s the difference?

Reactions are like reflexes. We don’t think about them – they occur, often hurting those we claim to love most.

On the other hand, when we learn not to react but respond, we now have a way to hear – and be heard – more thoughtfully. To do this well, we have to teach ourselves how to listen.

I’ll guide you through that process.

By learning how to change your emotional reactions to rational responses, you can ultimately strengthen the bond between you.

You’ll enjoy positive results when you’re willing to apply some simple skills while simultaneously increasing your awareness of how you both react to situations.

When you’ve mastered these methods, you become better able to distinguish thoughts from feelings – and to respond in healthier ways.

It’s time to “pop the questions.”

Do you genuinely want to improve your relationship?

Are you willing to take ownership of your own faults – instead of blaming others?

Are you ready to work as a team instead of as competitors?

If you can answer “yes” to these questions, couples therapy will probably be a rewarding journey for the two of you.

Reach out today: (919) 355-8772. Let’s start strengthening your foundation for a brighter future.